Reality Check

Oh yes it's true. Reality. We all know the answers and regardless that inner voice is screaming we like to test out what we plan on the mass opinions. You don't care what other people think? Fine. Unfortunately to make it anywhere, unless your pockets are so deep you never have to worry, others opinions can determine what is in store for your future. Happiness. Yes we all know the fairy-tale answer to it, and no, it's not really difficult, BUT not everyone wants to invest time, much less energy into life lately.
This past week. I had an opportunity, to really get things going on the projects that matter to me the most. I had everything in order, I networked my tail off, and busted every single minute of my free time investing that this would be a big production. Unfortunately for me, the leader of this particular event had things fall through. Yes I'm blessed to be surrounded by understanding people, but this messed with my credibility. I want to say that if you want something done do it your self, well I did everything I could in my power, and then the one that invested all the money had mother nature throw him off course so severely that he didn't bother to delegate. I can't cut the tie. It's a good one to have, for my benefit. We will see. The next few episodes... Met with another prospect, and they were not paying attention to my ideas but me instead. Really? Not interested in chatter or big talk folks. We are in a fast paced world quickly leaving us all behind. I don't want to deal with big talkers with big ideas, I want to deal with people with passion, talent, and work ethic. Those elements are what will slingshot everything to the next level.

Kindness. I've seen people talking about what I've been saying for years. Do something kind. JUST BECAUSE. It will fulfill you. See it's a lot easier to tell some one off, ignore, and not put in time. When I tell people that my new projects pay off are that it just feels good, some are like wow Cat. Others just say why do you work so hard for free? It's something that I will never be able to put into words how it makes me feel, and the satisfaction in my soul. For right now it's been a little here, and a little there...do I expect anything in return. No. Unless friendship and good company is too much. If you want good things in your life, if you want to better your self, then start to live. Lead by example don't take the easy way out and maybe, just maybe more people will return to that frame of mind and our lost society will find itself again.

I've had a few unexpected encounters, I've had let downs, but if I quit now, then it's the easy out. You have to try in life to succeed and make it to a level, a unique one that will stand out. Living out side of my comfort zone, being a bit more daring, has brought some interesting encounters. Regardless that they might seem unsure, or things still seem up in the air, I learn about myself more and more every day, and those moments of life that truly have meant something to me, are the energy and passion that keep me going.

The final thought.
Kindness is not weak. Reality check. My inner core is what leads me to be kind, to give people a chance, to be real and up front. Let's keep moving forward. Live and enjoy the people in your life now. You might not know the whole story, and their time with you might be shorter than you ever imagined. Sometimes you have to realize that those you keep putting to the side don't have all the time in the world, and due to the "less is more" theory they are not going to complain about life, when they are just trying to enjoy every opportunity of every day. Look out for yourself, yes, take time for those you keep thinking will always be there....

For those of you that know me personally, thank you always for your support, laughs, and love.
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Trying to get ...

What does it take? Really what do you want? I know that we all deal with so many issues, and as a reminder I have always said one persons severity doesn't take away from what might be an even bigger deal to someone else. To understand that you have to have compassion.

What are your intentions? Look...I have learned. Be open. Suck it all in while you can, cause quicker than a blink, sneeze, snap it can all be gone. Love someone for who they are and like a song states that I'm just absorbing now "Si tienes quien te quiera, quierelo tu mas!" Huh....why are we all so busy looking for something when the other is beating down the door. What is the correct decision when you think the boundaries have been pushed beyond what you ever imagined? Let's be real. To be happy you need to be yourself. How well in the work force aim for moving up, surround your self by those you see on the same path, be respectful, listen, be daring, but don't let it all out. In life, don't settle. Reality we live in an instant gratification society. Picture mail, e-mail, text message, moments...but reality leaves us with that not so full feeling. It's all a tease and we want it all, but don't want to put the work into it because we are all so drained. Let's not LIVE to WORK lets work to LIVE! BUT we are all working, working, working, and it's those moments of escape that we search out for what we really want...sad thing is on one side it's ready to give it the all, but we are so tired, overwhelmed, pissed off, scared, that we drop it, leave it hanging or take it for granted. This Friday when you go tear it up, let loose, release, hook up, find that moment...take a step back and realize something...someone is letting you in...so don't spoil it because it probably took some good force in the world to give you that opportunity...the question is are you going to run with it? or abuse and lose it?

Good luck.

Chat with you all soon!

It's good to be ALONE...

Let me start out by saying maybe it is because you find out who you are (You have no constant buffers to deter you from that) who your friends are....maybe because you realize who is one your side. I don't mean who will listen to your whining over and over, and all the stuff you need to settle in your life but who will be there to pick you up when times are so tough, ANYONE would know that a reach out hand would do wonders. I mean really what is it? Is it pride. Do we all have to be so tough? I know SOME people are crappy, SOME take advantage, SOME will even mislead the hell out of you...but does it really mean we have to be tough on those that are full of love to give, good intentions? A desire to live life to the fullest, laugh out loud and do what you must in the mean time while we get our dreams in order. Sadly I'm going to say yes. Regardless I refuse to be one of those....Don't get me wrong. "Let me clear my throat"....yah sing along... I will love, laugh, support, bend it better than Beckam, but if you push, stretch the rubber band, I am human, and well it will be time for me to let it go. I guess society is working on such an extreme basis...too tough, too soft, that they believe that there is no middle. It's simple you see. I've said it a million times. We ARE ALL on the same boat. Money, well it makes the world go round, love we need some sort that is the "umph" to drive us, laughter well that is just great release, and toughness it's good cause you can't let your self be beat, but really if you don't take a look around, and start to involve the people that matter, and I don't mean take on their crap, you are and will miss out. I have heard the saying it's better to be alone than unhappy. TRUE....it's great to be independant, but IT SUCKS to be so alone that you are lonely. All that does is make you go...'o.k. so I've been positive, I've worked hard, I've moved on, why would I want more people in my life to do this all over again' Right?

So here I am. Starting over, counting very few who will support, figuring out what is worth it, and wondering how long will I have to chill, and feel the hurt in my soul before the sun comes out?


"Tiene que Salir el Sol" T. Sanz

I live by observations. I live by my head and my heart, regardless my heart overpowers my head sometimes (But in the end I will never regret that)! I don't know really why people have to get a taste of you, and then you become just a someone, a now and then, a maybe never again. REALLY?! Did we have this discussion. DID I START this ? No! I disappear I become so well liked....really have we become a society where we have all been treated so poorly that you have to lose the good things in life to realize how great it is to have it (AT WHATEVER LEVEL)? Doesn't society realize that that severe of a push sometimes means you will not get that back. It won't be the same. It can't be rekindled.



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Willpower - Change

How do we keep our chins up when all the energy in the world keeps saying no? I get asked that question every day, and I guess people don't realize for every "no" there is a " Y E S" . Everyday I'm the background person pushing, and dreaming that maybe those doors that are only cracked will open up all the way.

Most of us have reached that point in our lives where we know we are not scared to put the work into something, but unfortunately it is difficult to find the people that will notice and compensate you. We live in a society where those that are putting the work,effort, and are ethical are paying the price for those that just get by with no intentions of ever putting in effort unless they are in jeopardy.

The first way to change is to take control of the things in your power. Yourself, your attitude (phew that one gets tested), the people around you.

I read the best article the other night. It was about willpower. You say you need to make a change but you can't - you're weak, you have zero self-control (sound of forehead being struck) Here are the three R's to transformation. 1. Relating 2. Repeating 3. Reframing

Sometimes we feel that that change hasn't happened because we didn't try hard enough, or weren't brave enough. I said it before, that sometimes it's hard to admit, but sometimes no matter how much you have in you, you just can't do it alone. To get "unstuck" it's good to have a "relationship" with a person or a group who shows you the way. "It has to be an emotional relationship with someone that inspires hope and belief, who makes you say, If she can do it, I can, too." Of course I am a passionate person, and I take that as a very big compliment since without passion life would be such a flat-line (that's the next blog). Look for people who intrigue you and make you say you want to be them, how does that work for them? Then form a relationship and learn from it. In the article it states that you can't argue with living proof that has done it, made their change, and modeling yourself on them is the best way to do the same.

So don't fret. Crossroads, and one with so many distractions is one of the most difficult things we all face on our path to self discovery, happiness, life, change. The first step is to recognize that there is more, that it will be better, and not to settle in life.

"And if the person that inspires you isn't a good teacher or doesn't have the time to form the relationship that will help you change, keep hunting. Act as if you life depends on it."