College Football Saturday Thoughts

"Oh brother" that is all I can say about some comments through out the various sites. Everyone is entitled to their O P I N I O N S...careful about what words you choose...WHY? Figure it out.

I am truly blessed to have the relationships in my life that I have...I love that I am surrounded by people of faith, love, family, and positivity. I am blessed to be surrounded by very faithful people that realize to appreciate GOD or whatever higher power you choose, you don't have to jam it down someone's throat or make it a point to explain all the time. Having faith or beliefs all you have to do is take those lessons of life, and faith and apply them to your day to day interactions. It's not how hard you practice at your faith, it's whether or not you are truly learning and living as you are being taught. Many are not, and say they are.... Always take the higher road, and never poke at someone's ego. That is all I will discuss about this topic because faith is different for all of us. What level, how we express it, where we go...all in all. Live what you are taught, and practice what you preach. Better yet don't preach, listen, support, guide.

Happiness....it is what you make of it. It is enjoying the moment, and striving for more...it is so many things.

Other than that again. I had everyone I needed around me last night. Thank you. Thank you my friends for your kind words, your constant support, and warm kindness. I look forward to many more great conversations, laughs, and growth. Not too much to say today...Just trying to absorb all the major changes and all the new things coming our way.

So pour a glass of bubbly and celebrate cause today is the when the old comes to an end , and the new, wow boo, I can't wait!

Amor, Amor, Amor

It has been an interesting few weeks understanding loves. Understanding friends relationships, understanding how much so many of us have in common (or do we? you know who you are).

In the past few blogs I was writing about why so many hurt, suffer pain. I had seen so many extremes and how it was one thing or another and the only one thing in every relationship that you can overdose on( and it is o.k.) is communication (how ever you choose to express it, or how creative you want to get). It is so hard at times watching relationships where you can see the love so clearly but I don't know if it's pride, or fear that people hold back what they need to say? I know that sometimes it is easier to tell an indirect person what you want to say due to being let down, or hurt just flat out sucks, but wouldn't it suck more to just miss out on something amazing or find out now if it is even worth all that worry?

We get this great opportunity at life. We have the ability to communicate, act, show up in life so go for it.

I've been told that I'm an awesome girl for many different reasons (and to those who have given me that compliment thank you)...I am in my own way....but so are many people out there....

Another thing I've seen is people say that they are open minded but label and assume (it's very disappointing) in two seconds. You either are open minded or very CLOSED minded. You can't tell me that you are the most romantic person on earth but sleep around every day with whom ever because you just haven't found the one, or the one isn't where you are at in life. is that really a turn on quality? It is very difficult for people to figure out what type of person you are if you act tough and like you don't care in public, and then another way alone, and then switch again. If people would just be themselves...wow what a movement that would be. I have met so many amazing people and some I can mix up in a room all at once, and some I really can't. The really can't folks are because these walls or people come out that I go...um...where did you go?

Why do some people chase, to let go, to have you let go, and then get upset when you leave them alone? What is it that you want?

I'm lucky to have the relationship in my life, my friends, and my family. Those who have me close enjoy life and laughter, and for those that pushed to much...I wish you well...I'll miss you....but it's time to let some of you go.

Relationships

So, I didn't realize that people just will say something mean, over saying something constructive. Thank you ANONYMOUS that felt the need to go there...Great observation, and reminder sometimes you can't reach everyone.

It's like I was saying on the last blog. I didn't disagree with peoples opinions. Like I stated what works great for one relationship might not be for another.... Some relationships want to hear "Tell me you love me" others want the actions to show "love" What LOVE is for one person isn't the same for another....I was talking with some friends that supported that statement....I.E. Cuddling, intimacy might fulfill one person, while someone helping out around the house or mowing the yard might fulfill another.

Everything is so touchy because once you think you have it all figured out, something comes out of the blue and throws the famous curve ball. Friends with benefits...good, great...but doesn't someone always get hurt? Isn't there someone that always has a little bit more invested? I guess I'm a hopeless romantic that way. Is it called friends with benefits because it is the new version of figuring out what you want? Just some questions.

I have seen so many different types of relationships, and from all I've taken in a lot. I think in observations if we try a little bit of everything, it helps a relationship grow and become stronger.

We'll keep it short today. I'll have more to say this week.
Thank you again for your comments.

Amen Sista!

No kidding. It truly is amazing. The politics of certain elements needed to get something approved. Sometimes I think companies are wanting trouble. I mean really. If I were to follow...lets say a process to a certain company to get something approved, and they were trying to categorize it the wrong way to avoid payment. Don't they realize that there is still a trail of paperwork for the person following a correct process, to achieve the best results to complete that particular account/claim? Don't they want you to better the situation to resolve the matter? Do you want to spend more money trying to get out of something, than finding the quickest resolution and paying a much smaller price? I THINK NOT!!!

O.K. I promised about relationships. Oh my young grasshoppers it has been fun listening. In relationships of ANY KIND...it will all depend. Stand on your ground, but you can not enjoy life if you have everything in a "this is how it's going to be". Haven't you all figured out yet that life will throw you curve balls???? I mean if you are in a routine where you know even when you are going to "poop" are you really living your life, and enjoying your relationships to the fullest?

Sometimes, events will happen in your life that you never imagined. Events that before you were ever in a relationship where you were IN love not just lust, or like, love ya, you promised you would just walk out. But the thing about relationships is that is all DEPENDS. were they jerks, did they just make a mistake? I mean really. Can you call your self perfect? I mean we all try to be our best, and do our best, but again I will say even with the best intentions, sometimes some pretty bad things happen and not to be negative, sometimes some amazing things happen.

I've heard conversations about cheating...ha what a topic. People think that cheating is just about a sexual relationship. Um, nope. Did you know that if you confide in someone more than you confide in your partner/what ever your relationship then that is actual cheating also? Yep. I hear that SEX is so important in a relationship...Listen I will be the first one to tell you if it was a required daily meal most everyone would be happy, but it is only P A R T of the whole picture. Everything in a relationship, talking, sharing, intimacy etc. It all has to have it's distribution in a relationship. Too much of one thing and none of another is called being an extremist. Nothing when pushed to an extreme works. It just irritates. If you can't understand let me give you a few examples. If you work too much you are probably missing some key elements in your personal life. Missing out. If you are all about friends and family with no balance, you work will probably suffer. If you use your cell phone all the time, no matter how many free minutes you have it will cost you a lot in the long run. If you work out too much you can harm your body instead of getting it healthy. Get it? If not goodnight. If yes, proceed.

For those of you that SEX is just SEX. Hmmm. Good I guess. But I can't understand why you would say that you would drop someone if they cheated on you, "if sex is just sex" . Maybe you can explain that one to me.

Also all relationships work different. So don't judge those that go outside of what your "norm" entails. It might surprise you that there are many variety of relationships that actually have it figured out on how to feel like you just fell in love, and how to keep it fresh. As long as the rules in those relationships have been set, and things are clear between the people involved it will be a fine relationship.

Next time. Forgive, Forget, Forward, Friends with....

Intensions & Observations

Buenas Noches.
The story of intentions and observations continues. Isn't it funny how a sincere human being does the things that they do just because they want to, and society has let us down so much that people question nice acts?

Jobs, partnerships, relationships, they all work the same. To assist each other. Teamwork. I question when a third party questions my responsibility or have I thought things through??? Hmm, why do you ask? Are you unsure about the decisions in your life you'll live vicariously through mine? I don't mean those questions to guide and assist for the best results. I mean the ones that ask you to sacrifice yourself. Hmmm. Intentions?

Live hard. Love hard. Laugh hard. Pretty simple. Work, Play, Faith. Easy. Just remember that all I'm saying is take a step back. Remember that if you want something in life you have to go for it. Fear and all. Fear sometimes is what finally gets us off our tails. If you love someone tell them now, don't wait. If you feel like you are in the wrong place, and you have seriously given it a chance, get out. If you think there is something better for you out there, search for it.

We as individuals have to look out for ourselves. No one else will. We will have people support us, help us, tell them thank you, but they will not hold our hands, and do it for us. Don't confuse help with expecting something. Don't make people read your mind, just say what you have to say. I assure you that you will get farther in life if you are direct, honest, and work for it. Even those that just get lucky, for the few that do, and appreciate I tip my hat to you, for many they get things so easy, they mess it up just as fast at they got it.

Don't forget your manners. This is a life that we have all been given the opportunity to try, and try, and succeed. Guess what? If you fail...you can try again.

As the artist Thania Sanz says "Lo que ya paso, paso" What happened, has happened, and she goes on to tell you look in the mirror, and sometimes you'll have to accept change to become better. Go check it out. www.myspace.com/thaniasanz or my other page www.myspace.com/cathylu30 it's playing on that page.

This week we will talk about Relationships. I've been observing how everyone knows the answer, and so many young grasshoppers have it figured out....and you'll have to wait. :o)

Calm Down...SMILE TODAY

As a favorite song of mine says..."Mañana Vendra" it means "Tomorrow will come" Go BUY ALAS PARA VOLAR by THANIA SANZ (www.thaniasanz.com) and the song is completely translated by THANIA SANZ.

Listen life is about figuring out who you are...not forgetting yourself. I'll admit, I got lost, lost it. Take it as you wish. I am starting new. You never just leave or walk away from a marriage, partnership, relationship what ever you want to call it. You strive to live honestly. Move ahead. Of course you don't throw anything away. Yes marriage is good, bad, sickness, health...so is every other meaningful relationship in your life.

I was told how amazing enjoying life would be when I peeled away the layers of b.s. How much more will you enjoy if you stop, and take a good look at yourself?

The journey ahead is as one friend put it, a set of cards. Lucky, but.... THEY are just not set up right. I have to flip some over, discard some, etc. I'm no poker player can you tell? THE SOMEONE ELSE being left behind is ME. I'm leaving the person that lost the creative side, and just settled into a routine. I didn't challenge myself. You know what that made me selfish, selfish for not enjoying everything life has to offer. There are signs in life, some lessons, some times not feeling so great, that are ways that GOD (or whatever higher power or science you believe) tells you MOVE! DO SOMETHING! I'm doing it. I don't need to say anything else (I know funny on a blog) I just need to act. There has been enough discussion, and not enough action. I'm excited to see what the next 7 years of my life will bring. HELL, I'm excited to see what tomorrow will bring.

To answer some of the questions:
Nothing but myself was holding me back...so I'm stepping aside to give myself a chance. :o)
Of course I'll make up my own mind about my life. Thank you for saying that. I'm using this as observations about life. Can't move forward if you can't make up your own mind. Again as a wise person told me..."Focus, even when the ride is hard go for it!, learn how to live with yourself and you'll have sane relationships..."I could go on but you get the point and I'll say as this person said "BILL FOR SESSION"


INTENTIONS Bloggers. The end result may not always turn out as expected but it will definitely allow you to sleep at night. Know that you have put your best foot forward, and always give the relationships in your life enough credit to be honest/straight.

FYI I married my best friend. Someone that on my worst days still catches me.

Fragile

Fragile. Every day it is a challenge to stay positive. You wake up, you tell yourself all of these wonderful affirmations, you promise no matter what, P O S I T I V E.
What if within all of this positivity you realize fate, time, it has all come to a moment, when that positive side, that strength...well you hit a bit of a break down? It's not o.k. right? Get over it, stop feeling sorry for yourself, everyone goes through worse...well you know what? What ever we all go through this is not a competition, and we are all built different. I think the main point MOST of us strive towards is to love, be good, kind, work hard, so we can play hard. Remember WORK TO LIVE, not LIVE TO WORK. Balance is the trick. The YING/YANG

I have always told people on a bad day, a day they cry or just need to let loose, it's o.k. We are human and every once in a while you just have to cry. It's o.k. to feel overwhelmed? 7 years to the day I moved to this state, is 7 years to the date I'm about to leave it. I'm leaving it with heartbreak, I'm leaving it with lost dreams, I'm leaving it having learned a lot. I'm ready for whatever is next...I'll admit I'm overwhelmed. Am I the only one when the carpet has been pulled out from under you enough times you know what you want, BUT how do you get there? Don't answer just do it, cause I'm doing it. I just feel alone, and yes it is good to be alone, know how to enjoy being alone, but not great all the time. Why chase me? Really? Why? You all tell me.